I didn't come to coaching as a detached expert. I came as someone who had lived the problem deeply. Through a decade of solo travel, constant movement, and more fresh starts than I can count, I experienced loneliness as a regular companion. I was accomplished in many ways, yet something kept me on the outside of real intimacy and belonging.
What changed everything was a realisation: connection is a learnable skill. Not a personality trait, not luck, not something you either have or don't. I became obsessed with understanding the mechanics of it. I trained in Authentic Relating, NVC, somatic awareness, applied rationality and cognitive psychology. I ran workshops from my rooftop in Taipei to company retreats at startups in Boston. I lived in intentional communities across four continents.
When my six-year relationship ended, I needed to go deeper still. That period sent me hard into internal transformation work: learning what it means to be truly self-sovereign, to stop outsourcing my sense of okayness to others, to find the solid centre that doesn't collapse under relational pressure. That work is the foundation of how I coach.
I've coached people at every level: from those starting from scratch socially, to executives navigating major life transitions, to founders trying to lead without losing themselves. The thread running through all of it is the same: getting from stuck to clear, and building a life that nourishes on the deepest level.